I came upon this quote the other day from Italian fashion designer and entrepreneur Miuccia Prada: “Women always try to tame themselves as they get older, but the ones who look best are often a bit wilder.” Miuccia Prada is one of my style icons, and I love what she is saying here.
I had a birthday recently (57!) and I am finding that I have been consciously toning down my style. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have a 15 year old daughter who is in the process of individuating and finding her own style. She seems constantly embarrassed by me and in no way do I want to come off as mutton as lamb – in other words, one of those women who dresses too young for her age. I understand that Forever 21 is “her” store (even though I LOVE Forever 21). I understand and appreciate that my daughter needs her own turf.
But, does that mean that I have to dress primarily from Banana Republic, Gap, and J.Crew? Lately, I have been attempting to dress like what I think a 57 year old mom would dress like: a cross between Grace Kelly with a little Martha Stewart thrown in for good measure. Conservative blouses, trousers, tailored jackets, and flats. This is so not my look.
I enjoy expressing who I am through the way I dress. My style has always been sexy, chic, feminine and funky. I have never, ever dressed in a conservative blouse unless it was for a role I was playing on television – and truth be told I honestly can’t remember the last time I played a character where I had to dress like that. And trousers? Not so much.
Once I read what Miuccia Prada had to say, I felt I had a comrade in arms (or LBD). I love the idea of being a little wild – untamed, as it were. I can accomplish this in a few simple ways. I can dress for myself, not for others. I can acknowledge that, while I do not want to look like mutton as lamb, I can still be sexy, chic, feminine, and funky. I can be okay with the fact that I don’t want to wear trousers, flats, and a conservative blouse. And, even though I love Forever 21, I can allow my daughter to have “her” store (or I can go there in secret, but I will forgo the booty shorts).
Thanks Miuccia, I agree. Being a little wild definitely works. Try it. Maybe I’ll see you in Forever 21, lurking among the racks.