Aspirationally Pretty…Reality VS Illusion

Mariska Hargitay plays a NY detective

Mariska Hargitay plays a NY detective in Law & Order: SVU

I have a friend who is an executive at a television network. As Hollywood goes, it is a very important job. She looks at hundreds of scripts, hears countless pitches for ideas for series, and is involved in all the shows that get on the air for her network. What she thinks and feels about a project, a writer, an actor, or an actress matters. Continue reading

Choose Your Word

Pauline Campos

Pauline Campos

I recently had the chance to hang out with Holly Fulger and friends (and fellow Speaking of Beauty contributing writers) in Holly’s home in L.A. Don’t freak out if you happen to be aware of The Cali Curse and the Me Being Banned from Ever Stepping Foot NEAR the State of California thing.

At least, not yet. I may eventually need to have a shaman clear me for seeing Holly in person, but right now Continue reading

Tales of a Sixth Grade Golden Retriever

pic for Golden Retriever BlogIn my last post, I wrote about the time two boys in my 5th grade class, Billy and Matt, told me that I was pretty.  It was the first time I’d been called pretty by someone other than my mother, and I was pretty darn excited about it.

My excitement, however, was short-lived.  Because less than a year later, something excruciating happened:

Sixth Grade. Continue reading

The More Things Change The More They Stay The Same

I grew up in the 70′s and I was obsessed with fashion magazines. Actually, fashion magazines were my crack. I craved them, I needed them, I let them define me. And, like crack, they also nearly destroyed me. My views on beauty were based on these fashion magazines. They told me what was beautiful. They told me how to be skinny, how to get a man, how to have sex and keep skinny, why men were attracted to “dumb women,” how to Continue reading

So Just What Is Beauty Anyway?

Elizabeth Chomko's headshot she uses as an actress

Elizabeth Chomko’s headshot she uses as an actress

So just what is beautiful, anyway?

Being thin / having curves / pregnancy. Blonde / brunette / redhead / salt and pepper. Youth / aging gracefully. Strength / vulnerability. Femininity / androgeny. Seventeen / thirty-seven / a baby. Being toned / being touchable. The hourglass / the thigh gap. Marilyn Monroe / The Mona Lisa / Coco Rocha / Barbie / Mother Theresa / Michelle Obama.

And / or:

Confidence. Authenticity. Intelligence. Honesty. Wit. Humor. Admitting wrong. Fearlessness, passion, growth, perfection.  Continue reading

Can You Describe Yourself In One Word?

Michelle Obama is a "Leader"

Michelle Obama is a “Leader”

“Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” Rudyard Kipling

Have you ever given any thought to the significance of a word? Words express us. They are powerful and they impact our day to day life. If you say a person is eccentric, you get a sense of that person. Continue reading

The “Inner Beauty Journal” Book Release event – Tues. Dec. 4, 2012

Wed, December 4, 6pm – 8pm
Inner Beauty Journal - book by Holly Fulger, Melissa McNamara

“The Inner Beauty Journal” Book-Release Party! Los Angeles, CA
Meet: “Speaking of Beauty” host Holly Fulger, buy her new book “The Inner Beauty Journal” and she’ll personally sign your book!
Date: Tues, Dec. 4
Time: 6pm – 8pm
Where: Bleu Clothing
454 S. La Brea
Los Angeles, CA 90036 Continue reading